The speeches. We all know the drill. The father of the bride, the best man and the groom. Very male orientated. It doesn’t have to be. Give the girls a voice. Who doesn’t love the chance to express themselves?

Mother of the Bride

She’s your mum and seeing you happy is her greatest wish. She’s helped you at every step of your journey from engagement to marriage. She will definitely have supportive and loving things to share about your marriage and her new son-in-law. And don’t forget your partner’s mum. This is a special day for her too.

Best Friend

Your best friend; they have been with you through thick and thin, through heartbreak and happiness, trough laughter and tears. If anyone can understand how much this day means to you, it’s them. They will have some poignant things to say and probably some teasing. Don’t say you weren’t warned!


We love and hate them in equal measure, but we’re confident that when things go downhill our sisters will have our backs. They will also be there with you in your highs. This is one time you know they’ll be supportive. But like your best friend, remember, your sister has seen you in all your embarrassing moments. Prepare to have those resurface!


If you have children, your wedding will mean as much to them as it does to you. Ask them if there is anything they would like to say. Of course, they may not. Many adults get nervous at the thought of wedding day speeches. But nothing will mean more to your kids than being asked anyway.

Long distance friends

We all have them; close friends we don’t often see. But your friendship is greater than distance. They were the first to accept your invitation, regardless of travelling time, because you mean a lot to them. Make their journey even more special by asking them if they want to say a few words.

Open Mic

If you’re really brave, you could offer your guests the opportunity to make a speech. On your invitation, state if anyone has anything they would like to say to let you know in advance. Make sure you give everyone a time limit though, you still want time for dancing!

Wedding Breakfast in the Lakeside at Capesthorne Hall (photo by Chris Morse)


Of course, never forget, you can ask but people have the right to say no. Not everyone is a confident public speaker, no matter what the occasion. Don’t be offended if someone says no. If that’s the case, take the mic yourself to thank them for being there.